Fresh Start or Stuck in the Past

Edit

Fresh Start or The Past

by Aidnace Walsh Clark on Sunday, November 14, 2010 at 3:56pm

If you’re stuck in a decision in which you have to pick between a fresh start and the past... How would you pick??? This one is tricky actually, its not asking about whom am I going to pick but how am I going to pick whom I wanted to be with.

Before I start let me thank those persons who helped me arrived in a certain decision. First and foremost my avid blog readers who keep on sending me messages asking me when am I going to write again, Next is my set of friends namely Stebie, Johnny, Baba and Aimee, those four person gave me such words which I need, to be at this point and my mom for the best words of wisdom that I would be including on the later part of my blog and of course my inspiration my sunshine, who became the cause of rainfall in my life… now lets start

How would you pick if you’re stuck in a decision between your past and a fresh start. We have certain qualifications and preferences but which is which?

First we have to take our feelings into consideration. According to Johnny, a friend of mine, “why should we go for the past if there is a new one? And past is past at the first place we’ll never be in love with a new one if we’re not yet over the past relationship we had”. Yes it was indeed true but as a defence mechanism of us human beings we tend to deny the fact that we are still in love with the past and try to cover it up using a new one.

Second we also have to take the feeling of the other person into consideration. yes you heard me right it is also appropriate to know whether that person whom you wanted to have a fresh start with is willing to be with you, what is the sense of staying with that said person if he doesn’t like you. Me myself had experienced it I was ready to leave my past behind and ready to start a new life but when I was about to start changing everything just fall apart I found myself alone and unhappy for the reason that, that person whom I wanted to have a fresh start with is gone. I felt devastated but can’t do anything coz the fact that he left me there means he doesn’t really liked me at all.

Third the reasons why we are pick who. Before picking someone we must have a reason. One mustn’t forgot about why he/she had chosen that person he had picked. Piece of advice, DO NOT OVER RATIONALIZE. Don’t use physical appearance (even though I know it counts a lot) during this stage as a reason on why you picked someone coz that show how immature are you and how shallow your feelings are. Don’t be deceived by sweet talks (curse you!!!) those things are dangerous they’ll hypnotize you made you believe in things then snatch your heart out of you.

 Fourth love is indeed different from like. Go for the one whom you truly love not the one who fulfill your fantasies. Pick because you love that person not because you like him. This is common mistakes for us people we tend to pick those people we like over those people we love because we thought that they might have the things that we’ve been looking for or the things which the other one was lacking but finding out that you were wrong all along. And its too late to go back to what we’ve left the vision of fresh start was gone and the foundation of your past relationship has already been demolished and at the end you’ll be left all alone in the purgatory thinking about what you should’ve been done.

 Lastly your capability to stand and fight of what you believe in or in what ever will make you happy. Even if you have those first four covered I believe that if you lack this last key everything is futile. Even if the feeling is mutual and the reasons are right and you’re indeed in love but you do not have enough courage to fight for each other everything you have will fall apart.

Love is but a matter of choice that should be accompanied with courage.Courage that would help you take that big leap to the otherside, courage that would help you fight for the one you love, courage to let go off the past and continue living without any chains attached and lastly courage to pursue and find happiness even though world has turned its back on you.

Do what you think will make you happy. decide not because you need to but because you wanted to. listen to what your heart says forget about them forget about people who keeps on telling you to pick this to pick that rather close your eyes listen to what your heart says then decide. believe me it works i've tried it about a million times :)