Plan to Win Back Your EX

To win back an ex, should not be made on impulse. It has to be well thought of and there should be an understanding, why you want to get back together.

Step 1: The recuperative period is crucial because if you do not recover long after your break-up or take too much time to break the mental block you have against your ex, you may just lose out on any chances of getting back together. It could be worse if he/she have got into another relationship. This will devastate you even more.

Step 2: When analyzing “what went wrong in your relationship?” don’t get emotional and make it worse on yourself by drinking or sobbing endlessly. You need to be truthful and find out what really did happen. Usually it could be you not meeting your ex’s needs or if you had some habit that was driving her/him away.

Step 3: The first thing you need to know when you are planning to fix the relationship is that you can only work with matters concerning yourself. Your ex is equally responsible but that is not in your hands. You have to ask yourself sincerely if you really want to change yourself, make sacrifices or compromise. Remember your ex knows you too well so you cannot ask for her empathy and then behave in the same old-fashioned way. The ex will only think of getting back if a noticeable change is discovered. If you are sure of yourself and convinced that splitting with your ex was the wrong decision only then go ahead.
Step 4: Once you have made up your mind, now there is no turning back. Always remember that the onus lies on you to re-ignite the relationship. Learn to frank and open, don’t beat around the bush. The first contact should be simple and general. Calling or chatting online is a good start to know how she/he is doing. It shows that you care about her well-being. After this first base, try spending some more time with her doing some activity that you both enjoy. With this you will be able to show her that you have changed. Let her/him notice this change rather than you pointing it out to her/him.

Step 5: Remain calm and see how he/she responds to you. Don’t force your ex to commit. The past doesn’t erase so easily. So give her time and see how the love blossoms again.